Relationships/ How to Stop Being Needy

How to decide if a person in a relationship is needy or if you are needy is a good idea. Being needy is a great way to ruin a new relationship and it is a good way to smoother an old one. Needy people show certain traits. They are clingy and show little confidence in decisions and the way they feel about themselves.

 Signals that show a person is needy. They may require more attention than one is willing to give. A needy person is treated with little respect and people do not enjoy their company. Help me – I am needy. One-way to stop being needy is to give others breathing room and stop texting constantly, always needing the company of others devalues a person.  

Needy Wives:

Many marriages fall apart because of a wife being needy. It is important to maintain a point of independence even when married. Always expecting a husband to be there for every little activity, opinion and event is something some expect but rarely find. This is an expectation that can wreck a relationship.

Needy Husband:

Wives sometimes struggle with needy husbands. This makes it difficult for wives to hold jobs, return to school or participate in activities outside of the home. Being needy can cause men to become jealous of the time wives spend with their children.

How to Recognize Needy Guys:

Needy guys make women very uncomfortable. They may be seen as stalkers. This is not true in many cases but this behavior puts others in a very uncomfortable position. It is OK to enjoy the company of others but make it clear by your actions that you are perfectly happy being alone. There are hundreds of activities that do not require the participation of others. These activities often allow you to meet others. 

How to Recognize Needy Women:

Being needy is tolerated far less when people are not married. A certain amount of closeness is expected when living together as man and wife. However, single people require more of an independent existence. Wives are allowed to call but single women are not given the option of keeping track. This habitual behavior is a pain, even between married people. Move into a relationship a little slower and learn to notice signals. If a person is not calling you in advance for a date, they are not truly interested. A person sincerely interested, wants to make sure in advance you are available. Saying no, does not mean a person will never call again. If not, the minor interest was not worth you time.  

How to Stop Being Needy:

In a relationship stop calling, particularly when calls are not returned. People are not impressed with people who show no confidence in themselves. Stay away from the testing and it never hurts to be unavailable sometimes. People find those without an outlet less valuable. Do things to boost your confidence. Take a trip to the gym, take a class or develop a new hobby. Develop a wide circle of friends. This will leave you multiple outlets. This stops the pressure on any certain person. The busier a person is with other activities the more appealing.  

Steps to Take If You Think He Is the Father of Your Child

How to know what steps to take if you think he is the father of your child? This is layed out by the courts. The use of organized, methods discover the paternity of a child with court assistance. Fathers are tested, eliminating any doubt for the courts.

It is frustrating deciding upon a child’s paternity when you are not sure who the father is. However, there are legal ways to find paternity. If the suspected father agrees, it is possible to take the normal steps of a paternity search, merely signing a few papers.

 A child cannot be legally claimed as the father’s until the father has signed the birth certificate or other affidavits acknowledging paternity.Some simply sign the birth certificate at the hospital whether parents are married or not; this keeps things simple.

Why Know “Who’s the Father"?



It is important for every child to know, if possible, their legal father. Health issues may occur and family history may play a part in aiding the health of a child. Parenting relationships are essential in growing up a balanced person. Paternity protects the benefits of children for inheritance purposes, social security and other legal entitlements.

Ways to Prove Paternity:

Judges can establish paternity by entering a Paternity Order; people in family court cases trying to establish parental rights often initiate this. Attesting by making legal declaration is official and legal in all courts. Administrative Paternity is put into action by human services departments with more agencies initiating legal paternity than in the past. Both parents can agree to paternity reducing legal conflict. If a man does not appear for a hearing, he can be declared the father by default.

DNA Testing:

This is one certain way to prove paternity. This is a genetic way of proving if people are related with a 99.9 % probability rate. This testing traces no diseases and is not intended for any medical procedure. This process is used in a number of paternity cases, in proving a person is related. DNA testing is generally initiated by a swabbing of the mouth. People can offer chewing gum samples, or saliva. Another name for the swabbing of the cheek is the “Buccal Swab.” After collection, samples are mailed for testing.

At least three types of test are available, each done with relative accuracy, Y-Chromosome, Autosomal (atDNA) and  mitochondrial DNA (mtDNA). Labs will store DNA but upon request by donor will destroy a sample.  DNA is a very powerful tool in the investigation of child paternity and a number of other identification searches.

Many women obtain this service through child support agencies; however, there may be a fee and results should be documented. This testing has the ability to change a person’s life. Realizing a person is a part of your life is, life changing.

When signing a paternity agreement people can change their minds but only under strict circumstances. There are also forms to be signed, called, Rescission of Voluntary Acknowledgement of paternity forms. A signer has a period of 60 days to sign this form, from original signature date. If after this date, the VAP document can only be challenged in court if a person is forced to sign, fraud has been committed or a mistake was made.

Voluntary acknowledgement of paternity makes things very simple. This is as close as it gets without two people being married and acknowledging a child’s birth. The father simply signs the birth certificate with no argument and no court appearances. Declaring the name on the birth certificate is a clean clear way of acknowledging a child and avoiding future confusion.

How Women Develop Better Relationships

Stop taking care of these men in a relationship ladies and take care of yourselves. If he will not be a man and take care of you. Let him sleep with his friends and they will make him pay his share of the rent. No free rides based on his favors in the relationship. Learn a thing or two from his homeys and don't be a sucker.

If you could be a fly on the wall and hear the ugly things said about women who pay a man's bills you would not buy one a cup of coffee. Learn how to stop being the joke of the dog pound. When a man is done with you, his friends will be waiting in line to use you too. Don't be a joke, learn how to stop being the joke at the bar.

Too many women are still taking anything off a man; just to say they have a man. This is a new day ,women, have careers, businesses, college degrees. The days of taking anything just to say you have a pair of pants is ridiculous. If all you want is a trophy go out and buy yourself a statue and sit it on your mantle at least it will not make you miserable. It really hurts when you see him taking care of someone else.


In some relationships, a few of you are paying his rent,car note, and gym membership while he is looking for some other woman he can take care of. Wakeup. When he gets it together you will be the last thing he will want to see. He will not want to be with what reminds him of his weakness, YOU. Wakeup ladies. Let a MAN be a MAN. He will appreciate you a whole lot more. IMHO

Tiffany Latte