Relationships/ How to Stop Being Needy

How to decide if a person in a relationship is needy or if you are needy is a good idea. Being needy is a great way to ruin a new relationship and it is a good way to smoother an old one. Needy people show certain traits. They are clingy and show little confidence in decisions and the way they feel about themselves.

 Signals that show a person is needy. They may require more attention than one is willing to give. A needy person is treated with little respect and people do not enjoy their company. Help me – I am needy. One-way to stop being needy is to give others breathing room and stop texting constantly, always needing the company of others devalues a person.  

Needy Wives:

Many marriages fall apart because of a wife being needy. It is important to maintain a point of independence even when married. Always expecting a husband to be there for every little activity, opinion and event is something some expect but rarely find. This is an expectation that can wreck a relationship.

Needy Husband:

Wives sometimes struggle with needy husbands. This makes it difficult for wives to hold jobs, return to school or participate in activities outside of the home. Being needy can cause men to become jealous of the time wives spend with their children.

How to Recognize Needy Guys:

Needy guys make women very uncomfortable. They may be seen as stalkers. This is not true in many cases but this behavior puts others in a very uncomfortable position. It is OK to enjoy the company of others but make it clear by your actions that you are perfectly happy being alone. There are hundreds of activities that do not require the participation of others. These activities often allow you to meet others. 

How to Recognize Needy Women:

Being needy is tolerated far less when people are not married. A certain amount of closeness is expected when living together as man and wife. However, single people require more of an independent existence. Wives are allowed to call but single women are not given the option of keeping track. This habitual behavior is a pain, even between married people. Move into a relationship a little slower and learn to notice signals. If a person is not calling you in advance for a date, they are not truly interested. A person sincerely interested, wants to make sure in advance you are available. Saying no, does not mean a person will never call again. If not, the minor interest was not worth you time.  

How to Stop Being Needy:

In a relationship stop calling, particularly when calls are not returned. People are not impressed with people who show no confidence in themselves. Stay away from the testing and it never hurts to be unavailable sometimes. People find those without an outlet less valuable. Do things to boost your confidence. Take a trip to the gym, take a class or develop a new hobby. Develop a wide circle of friends. This will leave you multiple outlets. This stops the pressure on any certain person. The busier a person is with other activities the more appealing.  

Get Into Music

A great way to get going in a positive direction is to get into an activity. Get up and get out of the house. Develop a hobby. Listening to music is a great mental outlet.


Travel around the world by listening to the great musical artist of the world, even to another place in time. Go by way of the Philharmonic Orchestras. Philharmonic means,” Music Lover”. This is a description of the Philharmonic Orchestras of the world. They are a group of people who have brought the love of music to the world.


When the men and women of the Philharmonic are playing they are one with their instruments. You listen but you do not hear any separation. The dedication is clear. The world and all of its sounds move in unison. When the world is out of balance it storms. When the seasons change there is turmoil in the music of nature. The men and women of the Philharmonics have the ability to help us hear the music of the universe.

A piano plays and you can hear crystals of ice breaking, a French horn and you can hear the English hunt, or the violin and you can hear and feel the tears of a breaking heart. The Philharmonic gives us the temperature of our world. Sometimes things go so fast we can barely listen, but when we stop; like a deep pause in the music and we wait, we hear the kettle drum and we know serious change is coming or the horns and can imagine the galloping of the horses.

The world loves the Philharmonics only some don’t realize it. It is the music of a cartoon or the score to a famous movie. The Philharmonics is very much a part of our lives. Rich or poor the dedication of these music lovers has always been there woven into the fabric of our world.

The men and women of the Philharmonics are dedicated to the art of making music. They bring to our attention the everyday sounds of our universe, which is music in itself. We go about our crowded lives not always being able to focus on the beauty that surrounds us. But when we listen to someone play a musical instrument we are reminded that there is more to the universe than we can see with the naked eye. We feel a group of emotions that can only be touched and brought to the surface with music.

The music holds a conversation that is its’ own. It explains, it demands, it recoils, it runs away. It concludes: it can be soothing or shocking. As in life it can be unpredictable. Music is an essential part of our well being. It relaxes us, elates us, even depresses us, but most importantly it reminds us that we are alive.