Relationships/ How to Stop Being Needy

How to decide if a person in a relationship is needy or if you are needy is a good idea. Being needy is a great way to ruin a new relationship and it is a good way to smoother an old one. Needy people show certain traits. They are clingy and show little confidence in decisions and the way they feel about themselves.

 Signals that show a person is needy. They may require more attention than one is willing to give. A needy person is treated with little respect and people do not enjoy their company. Help me – I am needy. One-way to stop being needy is to give others breathing room and stop texting constantly, always needing the company of others devalues a person.  

Needy Wives:

Many marriages fall apart because of a wife being needy. It is important to maintain a point of independence even when married. Always expecting a husband to be there for every little activity, opinion and event is something some expect but rarely find. This is an expectation that can wreck a relationship.

Needy Husband:

Wives sometimes struggle with needy husbands. This makes it difficult for wives to hold jobs, return to school or participate in activities outside of the home. Being needy can cause men to become jealous of the time wives spend with their children.

How to Recognize Needy Guys:

Needy guys make women very uncomfortable. They may be seen as stalkers. This is not true in many cases but this behavior puts others in a very uncomfortable position. It is OK to enjoy the company of others but make it clear by your actions that you are perfectly happy being alone. There are hundreds of activities that do not require the participation of others. These activities often allow you to meet others. 

How to Recognize Needy Women:

Being needy is tolerated far less when people are not married. A certain amount of closeness is expected when living together as man and wife. However, single people require more of an independent existence. Wives are allowed to call but single women are not given the option of keeping track. This habitual behavior is a pain, even between married people. Move into a relationship a little slower and learn to notice signals. If a person is not calling you in advance for a date, they are not truly interested. A person sincerely interested, wants to make sure in advance you are available. Saying no, does not mean a person will never call again. If not, the minor interest was not worth you time.  

How to Stop Being Needy:

In a relationship stop calling, particularly when calls are not returned. People are not impressed with people who show no confidence in themselves. Stay away from the testing and it never hurts to be unavailable sometimes. People find those without an outlet less valuable. Do things to boost your confidence. Take a trip to the gym, take a class or develop a new hobby. Develop a wide circle of friends. This will leave you multiple outlets. This stops the pressure on any certain person. The busier a person is with other activities the more appealing.  

How Women Develop Better Relationships

Stop taking care of these men in a relationship ladies and take care of yourselves. If he will not be a man and take care of you. Let him sleep with his friends and they will make him pay his share of the rent. No free rides based on his favors in the relationship. Learn a thing or two from his homeys and don't be a sucker.

If you could be a fly on the wall and hear the ugly things said about women who pay a man's bills you would not buy one a cup of coffee. Learn how to stop being the joke of the dog pound. When a man is done with you, his friends will be waiting in line to use you too. Don't be a joke, learn how to stop being the joke at the bar.

Too many women are still taking anything off a man; just to say they have a man. This is a new day ,women, have careers, businesses, college degrees. The days of taking anything just to say you have a pair of pants is ridiculous. If all you want is a trophy go out and buy yourself a statue and sit it on your mantle at least it will not make you miserable. It really hurts when you see him taking care of someone else.


In some relationships, a few of you are paying his rent,car note, and gym membership while he is looking for some other woman he can take care of. Wakeup. When he gets it together you will be the last thing he will want to see. He will not want to be with what reminds him of his weakness, YOU. Wakeup ladies. Let a MAN be a MAN. He will appreciate you a whole lot more. IMHO

Tiffany Latte