How to decide if a person in a relationship is needy or if you are needy is a good idea. Being needy is a great
way to ruin a new relationship and it is a good way to smoother an old one.
Needy people show certain traits. They are clingy and show little confidence in
decisions and the way they feel about themselves.
Signals that show a person is needy. They may
require more attention than one is willing to give. A needy person is treated
with little respect and people do not enjoy their company. Help me – I am
needy. One-way to stop being needy is to give others breathing room and stop texting
constantly, always needing the company of others devalues a person.
Needy
Wives:
Many
marriages fall apart because of a wife being needy. It is important to maintain
a point of independence even when married. Always expecting a husband to be
there for every little activity, opinion and event is something some expect but
rarely find. This is an expectation that can wreck a relationship.
Needy
Husband:
Wives
sometimes struggle with needy husbands. This makes it difficult for wives to hold
jobs, return to school or participate in activities outside of the home. Being
needy can cause men to become jealous of the time wives spend with their
children.
How to Recognize Needy Guys:
Needy guys make women very uncomfortable. They may be seen as
stalkers. This is not true in many cases but this behavior puts others in a
very uncomfortable position. It is OK to enjoy the company of others but make
it clear by your actions that you are perfectly happy being alone. There are
hundreds of activities that do not require the participation of others. These
activities often allow you to meet others.
How to Recognize Needy Women:
Being needy is tolerated far less when people are not
married. A certain amount of closeness is expected when living together as man
and wife. However, single people require more of an independent existence.
Wives are allowed to call but single women are not given the option of keeping
track. This habitual behavior is a pain, even between married people. Move into
a relationship a little slower and learn to notice signals. If a person is not
calling you in advance for a date, they are not truly interested. A person
sincerely interested, wants to make sure in advance you are available. Saying
no, does not mean a person will never call again. If not, the minor interest
was not worth you time.
How to Stop Being Needy:
In a relationship stop calling, particularly when calls are not returned.
People are not impressed with people who show no confidence in themselves. Stay
away from the testing and it never hurts to be unavailable sometimes. People
find those without an outlet less valuable. Do things to boost your confidence.
Take a trip to the gym, take a class or develop a new hobby. Develop a wide
circle of friends. This will leave you multiple outlets. This stops the
pressure on any certain person. The busier a person is with other activities
the more appealing.
