Relationships/ How to Stop Being Needy

How to decide if a person in a relationship is needy or if you are needy is a good idea. Being needy is a great way to ruin a new relationship and it is a good way to smoother an old one. Needy people show certain traits. They are clingy and show little confidence in decisions and the way they feel about themselves.

 Signals that show a person is needy. They may require more attention than one is willing to give. A needy person is treated with little respect and people do not enjoy their company. Help me – I am needy. One-way to stop being needy is to give others breathing room and stop texting constantly, always needing the company of others devalues a person.  

Needy Wives:

Many marriages fall apart because of a wife being needy. It is important to maintain a point of independence even when married. Always expecting a husband to be there for every little activity, opinion and event is something some expect but rarely find. This is an expectation that can wreck a relationship.

Needy Husband:

Wives sometimes struggle with needy husbands. This makes it difficult for wives to hold jobs, return to school or participate in activities outside of the home. Being needy can cause men to become jealous of the time wives spend with their children.

How to Recognize Needy Guys:

Needy guys make women very uncomfortable. They may be seen as stalkers. This is not true in many cases but this behavior puts others in a very uncomfortable position. It is OK to enjoy the company of others but make it clear by your actions that you are perfectly happy being alone. There are hundreds of activities that do not require the participation of others. These activities often allow you to meet others. 

How to Recognize Needy Women:

Being needy is tolerated far less when people are not married. A certain amount of closeness is expected when living together as man and wife. However, single people require more of an independent existence. Wives are allowed to call but single women are not given the option of keeping track. This habitual behavior is a pain, even between married people. Move into a relationship a little slower and learn to notice signals. If a person is not calling you in advance for a date, they are not truly interested. A person sincerely interested, wants to make sure in advance you are available. Saying no, does not mean a person will never call again. If not, the minor interest was not worth you time.  

How to Stop Being Needy:

In a relationship stop calling, particularly when calls are not returned. People are not impressed with people who show no confidence in themselves. Stay away from the testing and it never hurts to be unavailable sometimes. People find those without an outlet less valuable. Do things to boost your confidence. Take a trip to the gym, take a class or develop a new hobby. Develop a wide circle of friends. This will leave you multiple outlets. This stops the pressure on any certain person. The busier a person is with other activities the more appealing.  

Steps to Take If You Think He Is the Father of Your Child

How to know what steps to take if you think he is the father of your child? This is layed out by the courts. The use of organized, methods discover the paternity of a child with court assistance. Fathers are tested, eliminating any doubt for the courts.

It is frustrating deciding upon a child’s paternity when you are not sure who the father is. However, there are legal ways to find paternity. If the suspected father agrees, it is possible to take the normal steps of a paternity search, merely signing a few papers.

 A child cannot be legally claimed as the father’s until the father has signed the birth certificate or other affidavits acknowledging paternity.Some simply sign the birth certificate at the hospital whether parents are married or not; this keeps things simple.

Why Know “Who’s the Father"?



It is important for every child to know, if possible, their legal father. Health issues may occur and family history may play a part in aiding the health of a child. Parenting relationships are essential in growing up a balanced person. Paternity protects the benefits of children for inheritance purposes, social security and other legal entitlements.

Ways to Prove Paternity:

Judges can establish paternity by entering a Paternity Order; people in family court cases trying to establish parental rights often initiate this. Attesting by making legal declaration is official and legal in all courts. Administrative Paternity is put into action by human services departments with more agencies initiating legal paternity than in the past. Both parents can agree to paternity reducing legal conflict. If a man does not appear for a hearing, he can be declared the father by default.

DNA Testing:

This is one certain way to prove paternity. This is a genetic way of proving if people are related with a 99.9 % probability rate. This testing traces no diseases and is not intended for any medical procedure. This process is used in a number of paternity cases, in proving a person is related. DNA testing is generally initiated by a swabbing of the mouth. People can offer chewing gum samples, or saliva. Another name for the swabbing of the cheek is the “Buccal Swab.” After collection, samples are mailed for testing.

At least three types of test are available, each done with relative accuracy, Y-Chromosome, Autosomal (atDNA) and  mitochondrial DNA (mtDNA). Labs will store DNA but upon request by donor will destroy a sample.  DNA is a very powerful tool in the investigation of child paternity and a number of other identification searches.

Many women obtain this service through child support agencies; however, there may be a fee and results should be documented. This testing has the ability to change a person’s life. Realizing a person is a part of your life is, life changing.

When signing a paternity agreement people can change their minds but only under strict circumstances. There are also forms to be signed, called, Rescission of Voluntary Acknowledgement of paternity forms. A signer has a period of 60 days to sign this form, from original signature date. If after this date, the VAP document can only be challenged in court if a person is forced to sign, fraud has been committed or a mistake was made.

Voluntary acknowledgement of paternity makes things very simple. This is as close as it gets without two people being married and acknowledging a child’s birth. The father simply signs the birth certificate with no argument and no court appearances. Declaring the name on the birth certificate is a clean clear way of acknowledging a child and avoiding future confusion.

How Women Develop Better Relationships

Stop taking care of these men in a relationship ladies and take care of yourselves. If he will not be a man and take care of you. Let him sleep with his friends and they will make him pay his share of the rent. No free rides based on his favors in the relationship. Learn a thing or two from his homeys and don't be a sucker.

If you could be a fly on the wall and hear the ugly things said about women who pay a man's bills you would not buy one a cup of coffee. Learn how to stop being the joke of the dog pound. When a man is done with you, his friends will be waiting in line to use you too. Don't be a joke, learn how to stop being the joke at the bar.

Too many women are still taking anything off a man; just to say they have a man. This is a new day ,women, have careers, businesses, college degrees. The days of taking anything just to say you have a pair of pants is ridiculous. If all you want is a trophy go out and buy yourself a statue and sit it on your mantle at least it will not make you miserable. It really hurts when you see him taking care of someone else.


In some relationships, a few of you are paying his rent,car note, and gym membership while he is looking for some other woman he can take care of. Wakeup. When he gets it together you will be the last thing he will want to see. He will not want to be with what reminds him of his weakness, YOU. Wakeup ladies. Let a MAN be a MAN. He will appreciate you a whole lot more. IMHO

Tiffany Latte

HOW TO GET YOUR EX HUSBAND BACK OR NOT

In a relationship how to get your husband back. A Woman may sit back and say she does not care, but deep down, most women have at least considered the prospect on tips on winning your ex husband back. The leading tip, Do Not Try to get him back. Keep in mind, in the beginning, you were not trying to get him in the first place, or at least you did not make it obvious.

You were subtle, keeping your emotions in check. Move into the realm of, it is good to see you but “I’ve got to go.” Always be too busy to see him. When he wants to see the kids, make sure you are not included in the package. He wanted to be gone, so let him. Do not give him his cake and ice cream too. Let him know he cannot have both and be very nice about it. No anger, be so sweet to him, it is frightening.

How to avoid needy behavior in a relationship. Trust, if he is with another woman, it is because she is all about taking care of herself. There is a good chance you forgot all about you and totally focused on him, smothering the relationship without realizing it. Many a married woman has made this fatal mistake to a marriage. Oh well, if you did it, there is nothing you can do about it now but stop doing it. Revive and renew yourself, make a change.

Reinvent yourself. Most ex-husbands think they know everything about an ex-wife. Do not surprise him, shock him. Most married women have a dream they have suppressed for husband and family. Go into that closet of a brain of yours, dig it out, and get to work on it. Once he finds you are so busy with you and too busy to think about him, you will not be able to get rid of him.

Stop thinking it is because of you he left, it was your thinking pattern he left. You let yourself become a doormat. Some might tell you to loose weight, get a gym membership of redecorate the house. No, get some confidence. If you loose weight, do it for your health or yourself. He did not leave because of your weight, your income or any of those things. Men leave because of their own inadequacies.

Men stay with terrible women in a relationship, because they want to. His leaving had nothing to do with anything you did, except, not thinking about what was best for you. That my dears, is a sure way to make him leave and reversing that attitude is a sure way to get him back. Once you find your niche, you may not want him back. But then, this is about getting him back and these tips will lure him like a moth to a flame.

How to Garden All Season and Save Money

By now, your garden has given you food and fun. You no doubt by now, have tomatoes coming out of your ears. If you are a super gardener? You have a few stalks of corn growing for that corn, okra and tomato dish. Hopefully, you have your freezer bags ready to place the tomatoes and beans you have grown in your garden for the winter season.

Being able to look into the freezer and fix a meal is great. You can freeze beans, corn on the cob, fruit, and so much more. This is truly a way to save money, on the average, you will be able to grow food through the first frost.

Easter Note

Easter is an especially busy time of the year for restaurants and family dinners. It is a time for refreshing the spirit. Easter comes with spring and rebirth. With shopping for new outfits, planning trips, making special meals, Easter is a time of faith in God and mankind. What will be your plan for this wonderful holiday? Will you spend it with your church family, friends, or make it a point to meet new people. Easter is a time for shaking off the winter and putting on the lighter colors of spring.

Getting Ready for Summer

It is time to shake off the winter and get ready for the long days of summer. Certain maintenance has to be done starting with changing the filter in your air conditioner. Clean your guttters of all leaves and other debris, and remove any old wood that might be close to your home you don't want to leave a place for termites to nest. Check your lawn furnishing, purchase new cushions if you need to . Get your grill ready for summer grilling.